'Sleep sex' and erectile dysfunction go hand in hand

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Sleep sex is more common than you think — especially, and ironically, for men who suffer from erectile dysfunction.

There is a rise in those who experience sexsomnia, a sleep disorder where someone engages in sexual behaviour while asleep, according to new research.

The team at online pharmacy ZipHealth noticed a significant increase in online searches in recent months, up by 295%.

To get further insight, they surveyed 1,004 Americans and more than 1 in 5 of respondents have either experienced sexsomnia or had a partner who did.

It also found that men with erectile dysfunction are 48% more likely to experience sexsomnia — a tidbit which could be surprising given the inability to get or keep an erection firm enough for sex while awake.

Dr. Lori Bisbey, a London-based clinical psychologist and sex and intimacy coach, previously told the Sun that the most common sexual behaviour while sleeping is masturbation and it happens to more men than women.

Approximately 18% of men who have experience sexsomnia sought medical advice or treatment, and roughly 17% of those surveyed react to the topic by wanting to talk about it.

“Experiencing sexsomnia can be quite a roller coaster for both the individual and their partner,” relationship expert Dr. Callisto Adams told the Sun.

“I think it can lead to a mix of emotions — from surprise and confusion to even curiosity.”

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The study found that women are 31% more likely than men to react with concern over a sexsomnia experience.

Interestingly, 46% of relationships that experienced sexsomnia claimed it strengthened their relationships, while 4% said it led to a breakup.

Gen X is the most likely to have experienced sexsomnia with 24%, either themselves or had a partner who went through it.

That said, not every one who took part in the survey have experienced sleep sex or has been with someone who has.

But if they had, an overwhelming majority said they would likely react with concern and support.

However, 79% admitted they would be embarrassed, 57% said sexsomnia would weaken their relationship, while 50% confessed it would lead to a breakup.

“Deciding whether it should lead to a breakup is really a personal choice,” Adams said. “In my view, couples must talk openly about what’s happening.

Adams suggested speaking to a professional who might better help navigate the uncharted waters.

“Seeking therapy or medical advice isn’t just helpful — it’s often necessary,” she explained. “It provides a safe space to explore the condition, understand its impact, and find strategies to cope.”

Adams was hopeful, even when it takes some down a darker path.

“For some couples, it might actually bring them closer, as they navigate this unique challenge together,” she said. “For others, it could add strain to the relationship, making open communication and mutual understanding essential.”

Adams added: “Therapy can offer the tools needed to manage sexsomnia, helping both individuals and couples strengthen their bond and tackle the issue head-on.”